So much is written these days about stress and stress management. When I am asked to speak publicly about massage, the sponsor will frequently ask if I could please address the issue of stress. A large percentage of our clients come to the office looking for ways to deal with their stress as if it were some uninvited visitor that has intruded on their otherwise peaceful lives. Heres a news flash that some of you may not want to hear you were the one that invited this culprit in, maybe you need to send this uninvited guest packing.
Who is this culprit stress, this thief who robs us of our life and energies? The dictionary definition of stress is a strain or straining force exerted upon a body. An applied stress tends to strain or deform shape. The definition goes on to say that the intensity of such a force is usually measured in pounds per square inch. The human body is not excluded from these same universal laws that govern the rest of our physical universe.
Each of us needs a certain level of stress to be able to carry out and perform our regular and daily routine tasks. As a matter of fact, without a certain level of stress at an optimal and healthy level, it would be impossible for us to work live or engage in any activities. Therefore, a healthy amount of stress is a definite need for human life.
The key is to determine what is too much stress, and when we need to alter our daily activities to reduce our stress. The difficult part is that there is no one single answer. What one individual may find stressful is just seen as a challenge to someone else. In other words, its our perception of things. When we perceive too many situations in our lives as crises, we chronically over activate our flight or fight response, which equates to an unhealthy stress.
Heres a simple example of how a healthy stress can and will become an unhealthy stress. My daughter was an excellent student in her years at middle school. She loved her teachers and found the work challenging. By the time she entered junior high they wanted her to take accelerated classes, which I kept telling them, "no dont do that." I remember sitting in her counselors office finding all the reasons I gave being met with resistance as to why I didnt think it would be appropriate for her at this time. I recall finally saying, "look, this is a child that needs a lot of time just to sit in a tree." I relented which was a huge mistake for her as I watched the challenge of advanced classes go from a healthy stress to and unhealthy stress.
Stress can be a domineering boss that reminds us subconsciously of a father that we could never please, a traffic jam that makes us fearful of being late, or a work task for which we are poorly suited causing feelings of anxiety and failure. It can truly be just about anything.
The two key elements to help you define a healthy verses an unhealthy stress are how well you are matched to the task at hand and your perception of that task. If you are naturally a high energy individual, maybe, just maybe you wont be well suited for sitting all day at a computer terminal. Your perception of things is the variable over which you can exert some control. Listen to your self talk to plug into the subconscious message (boring, tired, stupid, not up to your abilities) you are sending and is it valid given the situation?
Of course, there are many other ways of reducing stress including improved diet, more rest, more play time. In other words taking the time to slow down and live your life instead of just racing through it.
Till next time, Rebecca.