ÒFIRST SET GOALSÓ
What is a life without goals? We all know people, including
ourselves (at times) that wander aimlessly through life without goals. Of
course during times of transition or loss it is normal to loose direction and
feel paralyzed, the process feels empty but it does serve a purpose. Before we
can fill a bucket with fresh water we have to empty it. When we do finally feel
ready for new direction, it is still easy to lose direction and slip back into
old modes of thinking and doing if we do not set goals.
A few highly motivated individuals find setting goals an
unconscious process that comes easily. But the majority of people find they
have to work at it, in fact many individuals have no idea how to put their
lives in motion with the use of goals.
Before you begin to set goals, allow yourself some time to dream.
What is it you have always wanted to do? What are you wanting to achieve through
work or personal life and what are you willing to sacrifice? Where do you see
yourself in five, ten or thirty years? This may sound over simplified but it is
a valuable tool in helping you understand the stuff of your dreams which
without we are destined to only skim the surface of life rather than living it
to itÕs fullest.
Identify your purpose: this will unify, solidify and help you gain
focus. Authors of ÒDARE TO WINÓ, Hanson & Canfield state ÒA purpose is the
underlying direction that gives meaning to our goals like leaves attached to a
growing tree for the purpose of keeping that tree alive and healthy.Ó
Learn to believe in yourself and your dream. Never doubt it and
never look back. You may encounter roadblocks or feelings of rejection and
failure, use these as learning tools to reset your course. DonÕt give up just give
it your best effort and stay focused on the outcome.
WIRTE YOUR GOALS DOWN. You need short, medium and long range
goals. Short-term goals are the everyday day to day stuff that adds up to a bigger
picture. LetÕs say you are going to use foods and supplements to lower your
cholesterol yet you start each day with eggs and biscuits. This is not working
a short-range goal. Your medium range goal might be to have your cholesterol
checked monthly to make sure that the foods and supplements you have chosen are
working to bring the numbers down. The long range goal would not only include
the lowered cholesterol but the real benefits of having improved health- more
energy, vitality, less worry about a heart attack or other related health
problems.
When the time comes that
you loose your direction, and we all do, looking at your written goals will
help you stay focused on the outcome.
They can reaffirm belief in yourself and your ability to live your
dreams.
1. Dream big, but be realistic.
2. Getting there should be a big part of the fun. If it isnÕt fun,
maybe you need to
reassess your goals.
3. DonÕt take yourself or your failures too seriously.
4. Have a belief in a higher power and donÕt be afraid to ask.
5. Be willing to take risks. You may fear you wonÕt achieve
your
goals and feel like a loser. Join the club. ItÕs a known fact that those
that fail the most
end up succeeding the most.
YouÕll never know how good your life could be unless you try. Till
next time, Rebecca.